Ayo sis. It’s been a month since I last posted on this blog. I own up to my mistake! I also own up to the fact that I have been swamped with work these past few weeks. Posting on this blog just isn’t a priority so I neglected doing it.

I could only find written records of two new year’s resolutions for 2018 from myself to myself. 1) Write a blog post every week and 2) make 3 YouTube videos related to theatremaking. I am 0% complete on the latter. As for writing a blog post every week, I will make up the ones I missed! I promise!

Although it really doesn’t matter because I know for a fact that no one reads this blog. Oh well, I would like to keep updating it anyway because my life is so unironically interesting. 🤷🏻‍♀️


so many things!

Hi! So tonight I’m pretty overwhelmed because I have about 5 million things I have to do and think about and I honestly just want to get this post over with so I can focus on those things. So here’s a roundup of some random things that I did this week:

  • watched my old ballet company’s performance of Sleeping Beauty!
  • practiced an audition song with my wonderful wonderful amazing friend Emily 🙂 I’m 85% sure I’m doing “Maybe This Time” but I might do something from Aida if I can’t get into the phrasing of “Maybe This Time” well enough. We’ll see!
  • Picked up my flute again because I’m going to an audition where they asked us to play something if we play an instrument
  • performed in an important dance piece! it was an experience. and my dance teachers gave such nice feedback afterwards!
  • laughed and giggled too much with Anna 🙂
  • had great talks with some of my dance teachers
  • ate avocado sushi that my mom made and brought to campus for me!
  • went to my first tap class! in converse lol
  • went to a new play workshop showcase!! saw an awesome 10-minute play about an adopted straight-A’s Asian girl who meets her drag queen math teacher in an NYC subway station. It was everything.

I’m pretty sure there’s more, but I’m going to end the recap there because It’s getting late and I have things to do. More to come next week! Thanks for reading!


“Obsessed by a fairy tale, we spend our lives searching for a magic door and a lost kingdom of peace.” Eugene O’Neill

“Bitch, please. You are fabulous. Go for it.” Rupaul

“I believe in Humanity, which means to say I believe in human reason. If it weren’t for that belief each morning I wouldn’t have the power to get out of bed.” Bertolt Brecht

“I want to dance, to draw, to play the piano, to write verses, I want to love everybody. that is the object of my life.” Vaslav Nijinsky

February Review & March Goals

I couldn’t think of a topic for a blog post tonight and realized that it’s the first weekend of March. So I decided to do a review of the goals I set for February and set goals for March!

Evaluating my February goals:

  1. Write a first draft of my play and submit a proposal to second season.
    • I did submit my proposal for second season and we have moved on to the finalist stage! Unfortunately I have not started writing it though.
  2. Apply to be a choreographer for a musical. 
    • I did this! And I got the position! I will be choreographing a community production of Heathers the musical this summer!
  3. Make two new friends.
    • To be honest, I don’t know what I was expecting with this one. I don’t really know how to quantify “making a new friend” but I am comfortable with saying that I achieved this goal. I definitely got closer to a lot of dancers that I work with every week and I have also been making an effort to get to know people better.
  4. Upload a digital painting to Instagram!
    • Sigh. I did upload some stuff to Instagram but I wasn’t happy with anything. It’s okay though, making digital art isn’t exactly a priority of mine right now. I think it will come into play when I do more design work.
  5. Make progress on my comic!
    • Girl I didn’t do this at all! Lol. I’m simply too busy to work on a new comic and a new play right now. I will postpone this to summertime.


Alright, time to set some March goals:

  1. Continue making new friends/connections.
    • I want to get to know so many more people who make awesome art, do awesome design work, or are awesome dancers or human beings! I am allowing myself to be curious about people and ask questions of the people I am interested in.
  2. Sleep.
    • Girl, I need to sleep. I’ve been sleeping 5 hours max every night and I can definitely feel myself going insane. This isn’t going to work so I need to make an effort to get at least 7 hours a night. Which ties into my next goal:
  3. Do my homework EARLY.
    • If I do my homework early, then I can go to sleep at a reasonable time each night. And then I’ll have energy to do my homework early during the day.
  4. Write a first draft of my play!
    • Whether or not my proposal for second season gets accepted, I plan to write this play because there are other opportunities I can submit it to. I need to get started this month and finish a working first draft, even if it’s terrible. Writing is editing!
  5. Enhance my wardrobe.
    • My wardrobe pretty much consists of leggings, t-shirts, and baggy sweats. I want to get some more sports bras, tank tops, and workout pants because this will help increase my confidence in dance and life and lessen the amount of laundry I have to do. Girl, I want to look good! Lol.

Alright, that’s it for my March goals. We’ll see how I do this month!


Tonight I imagined what it would be like to die. It certainly is not a new or unfamiliar thought, but as the scenarios played out in my mind, two things stood out to me. My laptop and phone were both password-protected and on my person.

If I were to die tonight, to disappear into the void, to be found lifeless behind a dumpster or tossed into a lake, I would grieve not for myself, but for all the things that I never finished. There would be so much wasted potential. So many words unspoken and unread, songs unsung, art unfinished, dances unchoreographed. No one would ever see my writing, the writing that sometimes is the only thing that makes me feel better and that I treasure in a little folder on my computer that no one else’s eyes have seen. In these writings I have captured vignettes of my life that explode in brazen nakedness. They mean more to me than the world and I could not leave this earth without properly sharing them.

One year ago, I thought about dying every day. I could see no reason to carry on in life, no hope for my or this planet’s future. And the question plagued me for months – what makes a person excited to live life? What reasons do I have to live? And ultimately it came down to one answer: there are so many amazing Broadway shows that I still have to see. It started with just that – my unfinished business of seeing all the amazing art that real human beings were creating.

And tonight I realized that my answer has grown, evolved, matured, ripened into one beautiful, life-giving statement of purpose and being and existence: there is so much art to see, taste, and experience; so much of humanity to explore; and so much amazing art that I still have to create.

this is an informal blog

Hi. I don’t really have anything to say this week. But I committed to doing a blog post every week, so here I am, doing a blog post.

I know that a lot of people who have personal blogs like this write pretty polished blog posts. They’re usually writing to get a point across and they convey it clearly and concisely.

Well, I don’t. Heh heh heh.

I don’t really enjoy writing super opinionated, argument-driven blog posts because I consider my blog to be more of a form of self-expression rather than self-publishing. I kind of just write about whatever I’m feeling. And the blog posts meander and go around in circles and don’t really come to any particular conclusion, but I think that’s okay.

I write blog posts because in a few years I want to read my old posts and remember the person I was. I feel my self constantly changing and it’s hard to remember the person I was even a month ago. I want to live in the present, but I also want to remember who I was, where I’ve come from, and what I have overcome and accomplished to get to where I am.

So yeah. That’s why these blog posts are very informal and kind of purposeless. Eh.

the one about periods, because I can.

Surprise! It’s a super special mid-week blog post. Crazy right? I can’t believe I’m writing this either. It’s 11pm on Monday night and I just feel like writing something. So I am.

Today I wanna talk about… periods. Don’t be shocked, almost every human with a vagina experiences or has experienced periods in their life. It’s a natural bodily function and nothing to shy away from addressing.

There are three main ways to deal with a period.

Option number one: Pads. Pads are useful for when you’re feeling lazy and your flow isn’t too insane. I used to only use pads, and now I almost never use pads by themselves for two simple reasons: 1) I hate the feeling of blood exiting my vagina and 2) I wear leggings almost every day. As a dancer, I have to give extra care to my methods of ~fluid~ collection because aside from the clothing situation, there’s also a lot of sweat and a lot of weird positions that your body might end up in. Also, I find it very difficult to feel “clean” wearing pads. Possessors of vaginas, you know what I mean.

Option number two: Tampons. Tampons, in my opinion, are MUCH more useful than pads. While pads allow all the crap to gush out of you and do a measly job at protecting your underpants from the aftermath, tampons actually prevent your flow from leaving your vagina (when they work properly). Tampons can be much more discreet than pads which make them great for leggings, leotards, etc. However, tampons definitely aren’t perfect so I always wear a pantiliner (or even a full pad if I’m not leaving the house) in combination with them. Personally, I’m quite comfortable with using tampons and find them to work very well – except for three major exceptions. 1) Tampons put you at risk of toxic shock syndrome, so you can only wear them for 8 hours. This means that when I wear tampons to sleep, I have to be very meticulous about setting my alarm and I expend a lot of nervous energy worrying about getting TSS. Plus I’m automatically limited to sleeping less than 8 hours a night. 2) Tampons create a lot of WASTE! Every time you use a tampon, you throw away the wrapper, applicator, and the tampon itself wrapped in toilet paper. That’s a lot of waste generated over the course of a period and a lot of wasted money spent restocking tampons every month. 3) TAMPONS HAVE SCARY CHEMICALS AND CRAP IN THEM! You can read this article or research others like it and see how SCARY it is that we insert these wads of chemical-laced cotton into our vaginas for 5-7 days every month! I once accidentally bought a pack of scented tampons, but by the time I realized they were scented, I had already opened the box and it was too late to return them. I wasn’t going to waste my money so I used the tampons anyway… and months later after I had stopped using them my vagina still smelled like some damn roses! It’s creepy and terrifying to think about the potential danger I put my body in every time I use tampons.

So, this brings me to option number three: MENSTRUAL CUPS. Let me tell you, menstrual cups are a wonderful, wonderful product of human innovation. I first heard about them on YouTube where women sang the praises of this safe, medical-grade silicone cup that sits in your vagina and collects your blood without doing anything to disturb the delicate ecosystem of your nether regions. Essentially, it works by creating a suction around your cervix, so when the blood leaves your cervix it gets collected in the cup. Later, you remove the cup, dump its contents into the toilet, rinse it out, and reinsert it. Since the cup is reusable and you flush the collected fluids down the toilet, virtually no waste is produced AND you don’t have to spend money on single-use menstrual products every month. I will say that there is quite a steep learning curve to using the cup, and I’ve only used it for one cycle so far, but I definitely think it is WORTH IT to at least try out. Menstrual cups are so much better for your body, the environment, and your peace of mind since you don’t have to worry about toxic shock syndrome! Also, menstrual cups come in all different shapes and sizes so you can find a cup that works well with your personal anatomy. Check out the links to resources and information on menstrual cups below! (Also feel free to ask me any questions you may have about menstrual cups. I may do a separate post on my personal experience using a menstrual cup later.)

The video above does a great job explaining how menstrual cups work and how to use them! This quiz helped me to determine which cup to try out.

So TECHNICALLY those are the three main options for menstrual care, but I also want to point out one more option: reusable cloth menstrual pads. I personally haven’t done much research on this (yet), but I definitely will in the future and you should too! Reusable pads allow you to save money on pads AND protect yourself from all the nasty chemicals and crap in pads that go right up against your skin. This YouTube channel is a good starting point for learning about cloth pads; you can also use Google to find various forums. Also, I know there are some shops on Etsy that sell cloth pads, or you can even make your own.

Alright, that’s it for me. It’s 11:44pm now and I need to finish my readings, shower, and sleep. Goodnight y’all! Have good periods and good lives.